We all know the crippling feeling. That sick feeling in the stomach you get after you endure heartbreak.

We’ve all been there. You probably wouldn’t think that the best thing for you after a breakup is to be alone but it is.

In the initial stages of a breakup you are experiencing many painful and confusing feelings.

This is when the negative emotions of a breakup are at their worst and things become tougher. This is probably the best time for you to be alone because the negative cocktail of emotions swirling in your brain makes thing tough.

You know you are not good company when you feel like this and often we can vent and take our problems out on the people we care about, friends and family.

Once these feelings subside you are going to be alone without your partner but in fact, it’s actually important after a breakup to spend a bit of time by yourself again. This is especially true if you were in a long-term relationship. When you are with someone for so long you are basically co-dependent and everything you do needs to have your partner’s influence in it, you need to consider their needs.

So after a breakup you should be spending some time alone so you can enjoy being independent again. Go out again, start taking up old hobbies that you may have forgotten about. Start having fun as a single person again.

These kinds of things also help you to rediscover who you are as a person and it only serves to make you better next time round when you’re ready for a relationship. Plus, you will know what you want in your next partner as well.

So don’t rush into another relationship after a breakup. Take some time to enjoy being by yourself.